Comparison Game

29 Mar

Several years ago, I read  something  along these lines: Women automatically compare themselves to every other female in the room within 10 seconds of entering.

Okay, I have no idea how this could be measured. I admit I’ve done it, ashamedly so. But, I certainly didn’t announce it. So, how could someone know all women, or even most women, are doing this?

I dunno.

But, do you think it’s true?

Comparing ourselves to others seems to be an auto-pilot program that kicks into gear even without consciously pressing a button. We compare looks, cars, performance, homes, shoes, grades, children, parents, etc., etc.

Why?

Pride.

The dictionary says comparing is looking at things for similarities. I disagree, at least when we compare ourselves to others. Are we not looking to discover differences? Differences we can rank?

Pride.

Even if you rank yourself low against others, are your thoughts not centered on yourself, and some kind of measuring device?

C.S. Lewis wrote of pride in Mere Christianity, including the following lines: 

“The point is that each person’s pride is in competition with every one else’s pride. . . Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man.”

I challenge you to notice each time you are comparing yourself over the next week.

You may find yourself doing it at church, at school, at the stoplight, in the grocery line. At the kitchen sink when no one is helping you wash dishes. You may find yourself doing it alone, at home – the presence of another person isn’t necessary for our minds to begin the comparisons.

Also, what can you find in scripture about pride?

Next week, we’ll look at examples of comparisons made by fellow humans in the Bible (turns out women don’t corner the market on this comparison game).

Maybe we should play “Leave a comment and win a prize.”

Yes, let’s do.

One person, chosen at random,  will win a prize out of the comments for the rest of the week.

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2 Responses to “Comparison Game”

  1. Robin March 29, 2011 at 7:58 pm #

    I find myself “comparing” when I watch TV. There is so much thrown at you, especially where our looks are concerned. I get so mad at myself when I do that.

    • Jeanette Edgar March 31, 2011 at 5:19 pm #

      Yes, TV is full of chances for comparisons! And last night I was catching up on a few blogs I read, and discovered one them had blogged about comparisons on the 30th. Hmm…funny how it was on someone else’s mind also. Plus, one of her commentors (of 36 comments…ha, comparison point* stop *) said they’d read another blog that day by another author on the same topic. Sounds like this hits a nerve with all of us!

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