Not Perfect, Just Complete – Is Jane Fonda Right?

4 Jan

Today I heard about 5 minutes of an interview with Jane Fonda on television. (I gave myself permission to have it on only while I folded my laundry, plus I’d finished editing four chapters in my book.)

When asked about a quote she’d given in a magazine regarding her failed marriages (there’ve been three), Jane claimed to have not “grown up” enough to be fully available and present in her marriages. She’s now 73 and said she seriously didn’t feel comfortable with herself until maybe 62. She acted the part that she felt each husband wanted her to act, believing that anything less than perfection made her unloveable. So she masked her real self to present only what she thought people would like. Then, somehow, around 62, she figured out people were never meant to be perfect, just complete.

She didn’t go onto say how she achieved this epiphany or how she suddenly went about feeling complete. I’m certain this is a good thing since she later talked about the bit of plastic surgery she’s had and then clasped her hands and lifted her eyes upward saying, “Please, goddess, don’t let me have any more.”

She is so close to right, yet she’s so far wrong.

Women do have a tendency to believe they should be some version of perfect. If we can’t achieve it in looks, maybe it’s in home organization, academics or business success, motherhood or some other venue. Maybe it’s even not watching trash TV unless your to do list is checked off first and you’re folding clothes at the same time. (smile)

 I’d bet most women could connect to what Jane said. Does that make them more likely to be influenced by what she says on various topics because of that connection? Maybe.

If Christian women hide the things that might make us appear imperfect, how are we to connect with one another? If we’re all too busy hiding our messes, we’ll never meaningfully encourage one another in truth. And what about being contagious to other women around us, if we’re playing Ms. Perfect, fewer people who might need real truth will be interested in hearing from us. 

Jane was half right. We aren’t perfect. We do need to be made complete.  This is only found in Jesus Christ.

In John 15: 9 – 13, Jesus tells us of the heavenly father’s love and how it flows from the father, to Jesus, to us. He tells us to remain in that love and that he has told us these thing so that our joy may be complete. How? By loving as Christ has loved.  Go read the verses. This is how we are loved, able to love, and proves we are loveable. Our God loves us, and he makes us complete.

What have you heard lately that is so close to right, but so far wrong?


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